A Little Pain Is OK

Pain is a discomfort; unbearable to a certain degree, and sometimes, it can prove to be fatal. Problems only arise when someone is so sensitive to pain that every little discomfort becomes difficult to put up with. Pain comes in different forms; the searing sensation of the hot pan scalding your skin, the blunt force that results from a head-on collision, or just simply, a heartbreak.

The stigma of today’s society is the romanticism of pain. There are so many people who glorify self-harm as a form of “escapism” from problems. The question is; does it really help to fight pain with pain? This, somehow, spirals out of control, and so many people self-diagnose themselves with mental problems, be it anxiety or depression, and use this as an excuse to justify self-harm.

Here’s a little shocker for you– a little pain is okay sometimes, and here are the reasons why.


1.     Pain builds resistance

During a strenuous exercise (assuming that you are in perfect health), the harder you push through the voice in your mind that tells you to give up, the further you will go. You will end up building your stamina, and the next time you do the same thing, you will most likely end up breaking your own personal record. Similarly, in every relationship, insecurities, misunderstandings and conflicts are the underlying causes of hurts that will accumulate and build up to become pain. You will find yourself stuck, unsure of what to do and what will happen next, because, for a long time, you let that relationship define you. When you finally find the courage to get out of that toxic relationship, you will find that it is harder for people to bring you down. 


2.     Pain teaches a better lesson than what is written in books

People who have gone through the most pain will turn out to be the most successful ones in life. Pain is a great motivator, teaching us things that no other person can. It is an experience of a lifetime, and after a long bout of pain, the ladder of success will not be such an arduous climb. Rejection, disappointment and suffering have been known to be the catalysts of success, whether or not we want to admit it to ourselves.


3.     Pain brings out the best in us

Harness your emotions in the right way and form. Pain is supposed to bring out the best in everyone, highlighting our best qualities and downplaying our worst ones. There is an unspoken beauty in the eyes of the person who has suffered a divorce, or the beauty in the crooked smile of the person who had his home foreclosed, because we all know that pain will always lead to something better.




Author: Natalie Ha

I remember being enthralled with the written word ever since my parents started reading fairytales to me at a young age. Seeing the power it has to influence behaviours and mindsets, I have learned, over the years, to translate my thoughts onto paper, in an attempt to positively disrupt the lives of others. Having my written works published in various forms of media has empowered me to weave stories that people can resonate with. I look forward to the life-long process of perfecting this craft, and hope to see my work touch the hearts of many in the future. This blog attempts to do just that - and I hope you enjoy reading it as much as I enjoy penning it down.

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